One of the keys to achieving your health goals, especially when it comes to weight loss is to fully acknowledge where you currently are and simply start from there. When you think about it – what other choice do you have but to start where you already are? But how often do you wish that you could start someplace else – anywhere but right here? Wouldn’t you rather start at least 10 pounds lighter or at least in a better mood? It can take a lot of courage to stare at yourself in the present moment, and face all the decisions that you’ve made that have lead you up to this very moment in time, inhabiting the body you currently have – for better or for worse – without getting caught in thoughts of self-denigration. But if you just simply allow yourself the space to acknowledge where you currently are, in a non-judgmental, loving way, then you can consciously choose if you want to stay where you are, repeating the old patterns that have lead you here, or if you want to move in the direction, one step at a time, of a happier, healthier lifestyle.
Author and spiritual teacher Pema Chödrön couldn’t have said it better:
“This is a very important point. There’s no problem with being where you are right now. And the fact that we encourage it and expand it at the level of mind training is just to say that we respect and have appreciation for where we currently are. And at the same time we leave wide open the possibility of being able to expand way beyond where we currently are in the course of our lifetime. But, you know, the expansion never happens through greediness or pushing through or striving. It just never happens that way. All practice grows and flourishes by learning to relax with where you are already. So some combination of learning to relax where you are already and, at the same time, holding a big vision or keeping the possibility open that really your capacity, my capacity, the capacity of all beings is limitless, absolutely limitless. This is such a powerful thing.” Pema Chödrön
The place where you start, right where you are, also needs to be rooted in the belief that you are worthy enough to live a healthier, happier life. That you deserve to step onto this path and that it is possible to lose weight and keep it off – for good. And in order to do this, you need to start from a place of love.
This willingness to make friends with yourself, exactly as you are is really important when you’re ‘starting from where you are’. If you have the courage to see that you have gained weight this year, and to accept it without judgement, and then move forward from a place of loving-kindness, this is how you can achieve long lasting fundamental changes to your health.
It is my deepest and heartfelt wish that you awaken to your own inherent and basic goodness, for your benefit and the benefit of all beings.
Aloha from the Big Island of Hawaii,
Laura Dawn, Registered Holistic Nutritionist